Simply put, vulnerability can be described as removing authority from conversations. Authority should be removed from conversations that involve problem solving and collaborating with others. If you’re exerting authority in your conversations, then you’re not creating an environment that breeds trust and a true connection.
Why is vulnerability so important?
It takes courage for anyone to be vulnerable, and even more courage to lead vulnerably. But there is a benefit to showing your vulnerability as a leader and your team and organization are looking for it.
The 3 things you stand to gain from exhibiting vulnerability (removing authority from conversations):
- 1Connection: This allows your team to work differently because they can connect to you as a human.
- 2Trust: You get the truth from your team, instead of what they think you want to hear.
- 3Influence: You’re influenced by your team’s good ideas and you’re also able to influence them because of the ideas you bring to the collaborative conversation.
Vulnerability in 3 steps.
This is exactly how you can become more vulnerable:
- 1Be prepared to share your stories of your struggles & failures. It let’s your team know you’re human and gives them insight about the challenges you’ve faced.
- 2Use language and questions with your team that level the field as you ask for their input and ideas. “What experience have you had from this and what can I learn from it?”
- 3Request specific feedback from your team using detailed questions.
If you need more vulnerability in your world so that you can receive more truth, have closer connections, and be positively influenced while also influencing others yourself, then start implementing the steps above and watch how your team begins to evolve and trust you.